tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6482087969985747940.post4581395069309998520..comments2023-07-05T21:01:31.915-07:00Comments on The Snarky Writer: Getting My Laparoscopic Bilateral SalpingectomyLindsay Mariehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00249931435021464536noreply@blogger.comBlogger138125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6482087969985747940.post-13017428335519677462022-05-18T16:56:49.402-07:002022-05-18T16:56:49.402-07:00Congratulations on your surgery! Hope you're f...Congratulations on your surgery! Hope you're fully healed now and starting to get back to your regular activities. <br /><br />Before I had this surgery I wondered if I'd ever regret it. Like you, I didn't think so but you never know, right? In the almost 7 years since I haven't had so much as a second of regret. In fact, I'm more and more happy I'm sterilized the more restrictions are placed on women's rights and access to healthcare in the US. I feel safe and protected. I'm sure you'll feel the same!Lindsay Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02011137066680126659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6482087969985747940.post-9498839508154636272022-05-01T20:51:59.616-07:002022-05-01T20:51:59.616-07:00Thank you so much for sharing your story. It has h...Thank you so much for sharing your story. It has helped me to feel less-lonely during my recovery of tubal ligation (the "it feels like I kept a tampon for too long" is definitely how I felt and hadn't seen anyone that mentioned it until I came across your post! Haha). I'm on day 9 now and couldn't have done all the things you did; i haven't even dared to drink wine and still don't dare to bend or walk long distances. However, I feel like my recovery is going very well and your pictures helped me see how it should develop. <br />Have you regretted it at some point? I doubt I will but I'm still curious.<br /><br />Thanks in advance and congrats for it all!!<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6482087969985747940.post-71575507251482505192021-04-24T18:38:33.989-07:002021-04-24T18:38:33.989-07:00Congratulations on your upcoming procedure! Very e...Congratulations on your upcoming procedure! Very exciting. I use a period tracking app so I know when I'm going to get my period. Unfortunately, it's less accurate the further out you go, so planning 6+ months in advance isn't helpful. I was worried I would be on my period for my wedding, so I got a 3 month supply of birth control pills just in case. By the time it was 3 months until my wedding I knew I wouldn't need them. I figured I'd keep them in case I needed them for my honeymoon, but we couldn't go because of Covid.<br /><br />If you don't want your period at all, ask if they'll do an endometrial ablation during your bi salp. That removes part of the lining of your uterus so you won't bleed but everything else stays the same, hormonally speaking. I don't regret not doing that (didn't even know it was an option at the time) but I do kind of hate having a period now, and it would be nice to not worry about it ever.<br /><br />Best of luck! And if you find another period option please let me know!Lindsay Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02011137066680126659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6482087969985747940.post-39128251914138097052021-04-24T18:32:05.308-07:002021-04-24T18:32:05.308-07:00I hope your procedure went well and that you'r...I hope your procedure went well and that you're all healed up now!Lindsay Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02011137066680126659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6482087969985747940.post-2475934088041921992021-04-17T17:11:51.517-07:002021-04-17T17:11:51.517-07:00Hi Lindsay!
I found your now i think almost 5 year...Hi Lindsay!<br />I found your now i think almost 5 years old blog because I'm getting this procedure in about a month or so! I had a random question- i know you mentioned that you do have an idea again of when you're getting your period but do you know if there is any way to stop/skip it, say, if you have a special trip planned? I know going on the pill seems completely ridiculous after a procedure like this but one benefit of it was being able to go straight through to another pill pack and skip my period if the man and I had a really special weekend planned. Not sure if ill have that option anymore?? Thanks! -LaurenUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03656302120974712764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6482087969985747940.post-88368606924860089072020-11-09T05:32:12.326-08:002020-11-09T05:32:12.326-08:00Thank you so much for making this post! I'm ha...Thank you so much for making this post! I'm having my tubes removed tomorrow and I'm a little nervous about knowing what to expect, but you went into so much detail that I feel much more prepared!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06197126561227151271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6482087969985747940.post-4617688694794704632020-02-23T17:35:08.851-08:002020-02-23T17:35:08.851-08:00It's a very personal decision to be sterilized...It's a very personal decision to be sterilized, just like it's a personal decision to have children. For me this was the right decision, and I hope that anyone considering the procedure has found benefit in my account! My scars are completely healed and even though I know where they are I have to look closely for them. So strangers and even friends cannot see them. <br /><br />I am indeed still with my boyfriend. In fact, I married him about a month ago, so we're pretty legit now.Lindsay Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00249931435021464536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6482087969985747940.post-8344510365899030622020-02-23T17:33:29.727-08:002020-02-23T17:33:29.727-08:00I'm so sorry to hear yours did not go as smoot...I'm so sorry to hear yours did not go as smoothly. As with any procedure there is always the risk of error, which is why you basically sign your life away beforehand. To me it was worth the risk, even though this was my first surgery, because it was something I really wanted and I felt I could trust in the skill of my doctor. However anything could have happened. I hope your wounds have healed by now. One of my incisions was also extended because one of my tubes was a bit too large (which is a thing?). But it's been so long now that you can't even tell I have scars - I'm sure that will be the case for you as well, even though they're a big higher. And unless you wear stomach-exposing clothing more frequently than I do it'll probably only be noticeable for a few months a year. Happy healing!Lindsay Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00249931435021464536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6482087969985747940.post-57781815998983086242020-02-23T17:30:48.173-08:002020-02-23T17:30:48.173-08:00I think this is a somewhat common (or becoming mor...I think this is a somewhat common (or becoming more common) procedure but I guess few people talk about it. The only changes I've noticed are I don't panic anymore thinking I've forgotten to take my BC pills, sex is more enjoyable because the hormonal pills aren't killing my sex drive and I know I don't have to worry about pregnancy, and any bodily changes are the result of my sometimes bad diet and overworking, not hormonal pills. :) It's been a pretty great few years! Good luck with your decision.Lindsay Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00249931435021464536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6482087969985747940.post-81468741688492707092020-02-23T17:28:42.558-08:002020-02-23T17:28:42.558-08:00Hi! Hope by now your pain has gone away. I don'...Hi! Hope by now your pain has gone away. I don't remember feeling any pain whatsoever after my initial healing period, and even then it was so minimal. But I've also never have cysts so that could be the cause of the pain. I hope you have discussed with your doctor and gotten the care you need! It really doesn't seem like it could be related to the bi-salp.Lindsay Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00249931435021464536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6482087969985747940.post-235772524153794622020-02-23T17:27:14.370-08:002020-02-23T17:27:14.370-08:00So glad to hear! It can be awkward to ask question...So glad to hear! It can be awkward to ask questions if you don't even know what to ask so glad this has been helpful.Lindsay Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00249931435021464536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6482087969985747940.post-86916571661283440482020-01-30T21:24:59.589-08:002020-01-30T21:24:59.589-08:00Thanks for your advice, Lindsay! Anyway, I know th...Thanks for your advice, Lindsay! Anyway, I know that bilateral epididymectomies are done to relieve post-vasectomy testicular pain. Thus, in theory, they should be capable of doing done as birth control as well. Thus, I have contacted numerous doctors about getting this done in addition to getting as much of my vas deferens removed on both sides as possible. To my knowledge, the failure rate for vasectomy after the first three months is something along the lines of 1 in 2,000--which would mean that there are going to be thousands of vasectomy failures out of a population of several million vasectomized people. That's a lot! Also, unfortunately getting regular semen analyses isn't a full-proof solution either since one could become fertile and impregnate a woman before one actually discovers that one is infertile. This is why a bilateral epididymectomy is so crucial--it ensures that even if the vas deferens regenerates, the sperm that will come out of one's penis will almost certainly be immotile and thus incapable of ever fertilizing any eggs.<br /><br />Also, thank you very much for your well-wishes!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6482087969985747940.post-2139678635268306072019-11-22T06:18:41.814-08:002019-11-22T06:18:41.814-08:00Concerning Vasectomy: I had in done in Barcelona t...Concerning Vasectomy: I had in done in Barcelona they offer Vasectomy and Tubal-ligation there easily wiht a lot of experience at easonable cost...took me only about 20 Minutes, surgery without pain...So i had to take a semen-test after 15 ejaculations to proof that i am spermfree, they said, sometime a man needs up to 20 or 25 ejaculations to clean his sperm lines from Seed...But if the test then shows that there is no seed anymore, you will be safe for more then 99 %. Very, very unlikely that the spermlines will connect again...I took some spermtests again, and the result still was that there were no sperm inside anymore...Ejyculationvalume is a bit less, Cum in more liquid and very bright...Hope, Guys, this will help you... Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6482087969985747940.post-57639569656262553602019-11-22T06:12:20.192-08:002019-11-22T06:12:20.192-08:00Congratulations for your Sterilisaton ! your story...Congratulations for your Sterilisaton ! your story is very helpfull ,mostly also the pics showing the advance of healing, guess at the end nobody will recognize the scars, or ? You took the right decision to be childfree, so you can enjoy sex without riks of getting pregnant accidently. Our world is overpopulatec and i hope that your story will convince other women to get their sterilisation also, like tubal-Ligation or more sure to take out the fallopian tubes completly, more for sure. Thus nobody may convince you to change your mind...have you got new Pics showing your Scars ? would be interesting to see them...Anyhow why not to show the world that you are sterilisided and were brave...? for exampele while wairing a bikine while your Scars are to be seen...Me i got my Vasectomy a long time agom, very quick within 20 Minutes I was done ...I am also very happy about that..Thabnks a lot again for your Story and sharing your experience...Well done your decision !! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6482087969985747940.post-63278933082195639632019-11-14T08:12:43.692-08:002019-11-14T08:12:43.692-08:00Hi Lindsay, congratulation for your decision to be...Hi Lindsay, congratulation for your decision to be sterilisised and childfree ! Well done ! Youz were brave do have done it , your story is vcry helpfull, hope it will encourage more women to get sterilised, no matter if by simple Tubal-Ligation or better -like you did by taking out for fallopian Tubes completly. The Latter helps you not to change your mind later on,perfect. And you can enjoy having Sex without regrets of falling pregnant accidently ! WE are living in a world of overpopulation, thias wthe world requires more women like you, which decide to be childfree and to sterilised ! Perfect that you did it and published your story and the pics. ! I guess that now your Scars are not to be remarked again , right ? Even so, it would always be nice to see a woman showing her Sterilisation-Scars in the public, for example while wearing a Bikini or visiting a Sauna or so on ! Because it shows that you took the right decision and that your are brave ! Me i got my Vasectomy a long time ago, and I am happy to be sterilised as well, for men it is easy and quickly done within aboout 20 Minutes ! so Guys...Are you still wiht your boyfriend ? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6482087969985747940.post-48419405960368743572019-10-08T11:31:32.257-07:002019-10-08T11:31:32.257-07:00I wanted to write you again as its been nearly 2 y...I wanted to write you again as its been nearly 2 years and I was finally able to get my procedure done yesterday! I'm achy, but have never felt so great--I know I made the right decision. ^.^<br /><br />I visited this post on various occasions to check in on the comments section, so thank you for leaving it up. It's been such a valuable resource.Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05488501590955050357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6482087969985747940.post-36977144854107731752019-10-05T19:22:53.176-07:002019-10-05T19:22:53.176-07:00I know this is old, but I appreciate you posting y...I know this is old, but I appreciate you posting your experience. Mine was not as smooth...my incisions were glued open (as in, skin not closed and wound filled with glue) and someone (my gynecologist, her resident, a student...who knows) locked forceps across my body wall on either side of my navel, causing necrosis of the skin and scarring. I had to have the glue picked out and incisions reclosed a few days after surgery. <br /><br />It’s been almost a month and the incisions aren’t 100% closed yet, and the forceps scars are very red and angry. One fallopian tube had a cyst, and the navel incision was extended to remove it. So, it was a bit of a mess. (Not to mention the two other incisions are not as low as yours, and not even).<br /><br />While I wish my experience had been as smooth as yours, I am glad I was able to find someone who would do this procedure for me. Moral of the story: talk in depth with your provider about where they will place incisions and how they close them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6482087969985747940.post-43073974545049510932019-09-17T15:02:10.221-07:002019-09-17T15:02:10.221-07:00Thank you so much for posting your experience! I h...Thank you so much for posting your experience! I have been debating on getting my tubes removed and trying to find other women like you has been a struggle? Since it's been a couple of years since your surgery, have you noticed any changes because of it? Is everything still going well for you? I look forward to hearing an update!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04318573261963147332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6482087969985747940.post-72868695501379799532019-08-22T17:41:30.560-07:002019-08-22T17:41:30.560-07:00Thanks for sharing! I've come back to this blo...Thanks for sharing! I've come back to this blog a few times both before and after my surgery. There's not a whole lot out there to refer back to so I appreciate it!<br /><br />Have you ever had pains afterwards? I am a little more than 2 months and I know I've been getting ovarian cysts on the left, but lately I've been having really intense pains on the right and it radiates through my pelvis. It just doesn't feel like a cyst but it could be. I know if I go in they will just want to do scans which I can't afford. My friend is an NP and she basically said to go in if I get a fever or it's just too unbearable. <br /><br />I was just wondering if you or anyone else have experienced this post-surgery. <br /><br />Thanks!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6482087969985747940.post-36752630156454144542019-08-19T20:53:40.599-07:002019-08-19T20:53:40.599-07:00Thank you so much for documenting this. There are ...Thank you so much for documenting this. There are so many sites with what can go wrong. Seeing a blog on a boringly uneventful recovery is very reassuring!h103https://www.blogger.com/profile/05986852529637304065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6482087969985747940.post-63347216140881859652019-04-29T19:56:44.220-07:002019-04-29T19:56:44.220-07:00Congrats right back! Hope you're fully healed ...Congrats right back! Hope you're fully healed now. I somehow missed the gas pains but it sounds like it wasn't that bad for you, at least. What an awesome doctor you found! I hope you spread her or his name around for anyone else interested in permanent birth control. :) Screw your coworkers, too - it's not their life! Go have a nice glass of wine in a nice quiet place and be happy for your decisions. Lindsay Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00249931435021464536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6482087969985747940.post-91268649171075286722019-03-25T09:35:08.442-07:002019-03-25T09:35:08.442-07:00Excellent story to read. Congratulations on your s...Excellent story to read. Congratulations on your sterilization! I just had mine done last Wednesday, so I am currently on day 5. I found the gas pains the first few days were worse than this other pain I'm starting to feel. To me it feels like ovulating pains, or cramp pains but more on just one side. I was surprised when my doctor actually offered the surgery. I had no idea it was such a thing because I was used to doctors trying to put me on birth control which I refused. Always knew I didn't want kids and when I found out it could be a permanent decision i was all for it. I never thought i was able to in the past and now I know for sure and I was and still am excited about my decision. I get alot of backlash from coworkers but in my opinion, my opinion is the only one that matters because it is my body and my life. So glad I found someone who also made this decision on their own for themselves. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09988533007114511514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6482087969985747940.post-77786110350860375192019-03-17T17:10:42.792-07:002019-03-17T17:10:42.792-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Coyotehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01184822261811827197noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6482087969985747940.post-52460443693264748102019-02-10T11:52:57.038-08:002019-02-10T11:52:57.038-08:00I recommend speaking to a doctor who has done vase...I recommend speaking to a doctor who has done vasectomies and see what else is available. I didn't do any research on permanent birth control options for men since that doesn't apply to me. But you can have a similar conversation! When I made my consultation appointments, I made it clear I was looking to be sterilized and wanted to discuss a bilateral salpingectomy. This way the doctor knew what I was about before even meeting me - theoretically, if he or she was opposed to this procedure they would have cancelled (fortunately I didn't have to go through that - I met with two doctors and one wanted to do a different method of sterilization that has actually since been recalled, so I'm glad I stuck to my guns and found a new doctor who was supportive of both the sterilization and the method). Google around in your area for vasectomies and call a few places and ask if there are any methods they can do that are even more effective. Vasectomies can fail but more often than not the failure is due to the man not waiting the 3 months before having unprotected sex or not getting the scan (or whatever they do) to verify that you're sterile. If you wait 3 months and get cleared from the doctor the failure rate is so crazy low. You could always get an annual check to make sure nothing changed.<br /><br />Regarding fairness, there's a whole lot that's unfair about reproductive control. I just don't think this is one of them, as vasectomies are so easy to obtain, so affordable, and so permanent that it would be lovely for women to have anything as close to a vasectomy. I don't know enough about the male reproductive tract to know whether it's even possible to remove all of the tubing without affecting anything else (such as hormones). Abortion is another subject entirely - an abortion ban is sexist because of the extreme risk pregnancy causes to a woman, which is something no male will experience. I wish you luck so that you never cause any unintended pregnancies!Lindsay Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00249931435021464536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6482087969985747940.post-80644858303613378922019-01-15T18:07:17.255-08:002019-01-15T18:07:17.255-08:00Very interesting post! Thanks for sharing your exp...Very interesting post! Thanks for sharing your experience in regards to this!<br /><br />Anyway, I have a question for you--as a male, I would like to have all of my own reproductive tubing removed. Vasectomies can and sometimes do fail and thus I would like to get both my entire epididymis and my entire vas deferens surgically removed on both sides of my body. Do you have any advice for me in finding a doctor who would be willing to perform such a surgery on me?<br /><br />After all, if women can get their entire reproductive tubing surgically removed, it's only fair for men to get the same option. Indeed, if abortion bans are sexist in spite of biological differences between men and women, then denying men the option to get all of their reproductive tubing surgically removed is also sexist and thus unacceptable.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com